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You may think that saving a relationship has to involve both parties working hard on positive action, but that’s not always the case.

Sure, the optimum is to have both sides working consciously and wholeheartedly together to salvage what was once a good and fine relationship, but especially in the initial stages of a threatened breakup, there is often only one person trying to save your relationship.

In order to swing your partner into a positive position on your relationship, you may well have to apply a little harmless psychological trickery to get them where you want them.

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If you get into the situation where “my ex boyfriend wants to get back together” then that can be a fantastic thing and exactly what you want.

After all, you do want to save your relationship when the relationship has been a good one.

Just make sure that in getting back together, the relationship will stay in a positive and happy quadrant for both of you.

You do this by ensuring that what you do and what you say makes you comfortable and happy and capable of giving comfort and happiness.

It’s easy really – many more couples should practice this!

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What are the steps to get over a breakup?

Well, they are surprisingly similar to the steps for saving your relationship.

And they all revolve around YOU rather than any other person you have a relationship with.

1. YOU have got to treat yourself well and stop that nagging negative voice in your head that will get on a nasty loop if you listen to it.  Tell it to “shut up”… really,…out loud if you need to.

Every time you hear that negative voice in your mind, tell it to quit and immediately focus on what’s happening around you now, not the past that you can’t change and not the future that you can’t predict.

2. Be positive. Choose to be happy rather than choosing to be miserable or angry or frustrated.  They are all just emotions and you can choose with conscious practice.

3. Get on with your life and take an interest in your world.

3 simple things.  Not easy to start with, but do a bit of practice and you’ll feel heaps better.

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Now, fast is relative, when you are trying to get your ex back fast.

Fast is not immediate, but of course you have to engage the right plan as soon as possible so your ex does not just move on and leave you trailing behind in misery.

The thing is, you cannot look or sound desperate or panicked because that is simply going to push your ex further away.

You need to develop a confident facade that conveys the right message to get what you want.

This takes a bit of practice, but is surprisingly easy to make a habit and it will make you feel and look good and give you an aura of being in control.

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Everyone needs help with relationships from time to time.

The thing is, you have to get help from the right people.

Your friends may not tell you what you need to hear for fear of harming you or your relationship with them.

Your family may have ulterior motives.

Help with relationships can come from a professional counsellor, but be a bit careful here as well. Really check them out, how they look and speak and what they say to you.

I once visited a counsellor who had big chunks of her hair missing, who chain smoked and drank bucket loads of coffee at our (few) meetings and she was supposed to be telling me how to stress less.

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If you can’t get over a breakup, then maybe the breakup should not happen.

Sure, if you ex has moved on (or away) you need to come to terms with that and get on with your own life.

But if there is still a chance that the breakup need not happen for good, you have the opportunity to change the way you see things and the what you do and what you say in order to give your relationship a chance to begin afresh.

You need to step back and look at yourself and what you truly want and at what you are prepared to change in your attitude and behaviour to give it a shot for a happy relationship once again.

Then you need to get some good advice.

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What’s the way to win my ex girlfriend back?

Good question. And good that you actually ASK it.

Because too many people wish and hope that their ex girlfriend will come back to them and things will go back to “normal” without any change or effort on their part, except of course for pleading and bugging the ex and maybe even being demanding or (dare I say) bullying in some way or another.

If your target is to win your ex girlfriend (or boyfriend) back, then you have to work out what you need to do to do that in a clear and methodical way.

You need a plan.

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Dealing with relationship problems is normal.

Often we are kidding ourselves thinking that our relationships should be all smooth sailing and we are comfortable and happy every waking moment of the day.

When you start with this idea of utopia in mind, no relationship is every going to measure up.

You know the old saying: “Marriage is give and take”

However, it should not be that one party does all the giving and the other all the taking.

If you are in this habit, no wonder if your relationship is in trouble.

You need to change what you are doing to get a better result all round.